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samzimms t1_iuk3jdm wrote

You two are young and in university, so both have a lot to learn about relationships. However, you are not all to blame here.

If you are in a committed relationship, you do not go to another room with another guy, lock the door, and not answer it when your bf comes looking for you. This is inappropriate.

Yes, you overreacted by getting angry and banging on the door, etc. But you are not wrong for being upset that she was in the bedroom with him. She should have explained the situation to you first, so you were okay with it. Or agreed to text to him the next day about whatever was so important.

When you are a couple, you should always consider your partner. She did not do that. You overreacted in response.

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Livid_Excuse_3501 OP t1_iuk40af wrote

It's just the guilt of making her feel uneasy that is weighing me down because I don't want her last impressions of me to be some sort of aggressive thug, and I wouldn't want her to feel unsafe at all, whilst I'm also worried i'll never get this chance of such a great relationship again

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samzimms t1_iuk4otj wrote

You will definitely have better relationships going forward. If you are upset by your behavior, apologize to her and let her know this situation made you look closely at yourself and recognize you need to change a few things. At the same time, you could also tell her that you didn't like what she did and you want to be in a relationship with someone who respects her partner and doesn't do things that look so questionable.

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Livid_Excuse_3501 OP t1_iuk5xyq wrote

I apologised to her numerous times, when she said we should go our different ways, I got to say good luck to her and that it was great to spend time with her and almost immediately after before I could say anymore I was removed as a friend from snapchat, its clear that she has made her mind up

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