Senior_Shoulder9464 t1_iuk8dsy wrote on October 31, 2022 at 11:30 PM

Reply to comment by PeskyPenguin83 in Boyfriend is going out of town this weekend and I have overwhelming anxiety something is going to happen by [deleted]

I’m with him because he’s my best friend, I knows he’s a good person to his core.

You are right however, this is not the relationship I want and I absolutely agree with you that he did, in fact, cheat. I didn’t anticipate I would ever have this kind of reaction to him going out of town but here I am. On the other hand, I can’t believe it’s impossible for people to change and reform themselves.

CanadasNeighbor t1_iuk8ufg wrote on October 31, 2022 at 11:34 PM

They have to want to change though. If he wanted to be better for you he wouldn't have put you through all of that in the beginning anyway.

Most likely he just got better at lying and hiding it.

PeskyPenguin83 t1_iuk9btd wrote on October 31, 2022 at 11:38 PM

Very very rarely do people change, even if he did, here you are on Reddit with Anxiety, which will never fully go away.

You need to look after yourself, before it is too late. I am 40 years old, I have made the same mistakes over and over, trusting people I shouldn't, dating people that were not right for me, now here I am, full of anxiety and a huge case of the can no longer be fucked with relationships because of decades of torture basically.