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Why are you with him?

Like seriously? If this the relationship that you want in life? Where you get major anxiety when your boyfriend goes out or away for a couple of days?

Most people do not want to hear this, But people who cheat (he did), always do it again, and you're just wasting your time here.

Drinking and partying with a cheater, what could go wrong?

I’m with him because he’s my best friend, I knows he’s a good person to his core.

You are right however, this is not the relationship I want and I absolutely agree with you that he did, in fact, cheat. I didn’t anticipate I would ever have this kind of reaction to him going out of town but here I am. On the other hand, I can’t believe it’s impossible for people to change and reform themselves.

This is one of those situations where you can be realistic and prepare yourself that you will in all likelihood get cheated on OR you trick yourself into believing he might not cheat.

Like logically though, there's zero proof he won't cheat.

I worry you might be here hoping for a good story or evidence that your relationship might have a chance but it seems pretty doomed from the start.

They have to want to change though. If he wanted to be better for you he wouldn't have put you through all of that in the beginning anyway.

Most likely he just got better at lying and hiding it.

Very very rarely do people change, even if he did, here you are on Reddit with Anxiety, which will never fully go away.

You need to look after yourself, before it is too late. I am 40 years old, I have made the same mistakes over and over, trusting people I shouldn't, dating people that were not right for me, now here I am, full of anxiety and a huge case of the can no longer be fucked with relationships because of decades of torture basically.

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