What could this mean?

Submitted by Interesting-Ad2798 t3_yipv2d in relationship_advice

The girl I have been seeing has been super sweet. She texts me a lot, lengthy responses. She doesn’t talk to many people or have social media. She got out of a bad relationship a year ago. We’ve been seeing each other, hanging out at my place and having sex. She usually stays the night and cuddles after. She likes to be touchy and tells me how comfortable she is around me and how sweet I am. But there are times she has anxiety or something and likes to have her alone time. She says she doesn’t want to be clingy and restrains herself sometimes. She asked me what I wanted and I said I want to hangout more and go do things. She said she was interested in me. Most times she has these episodes where she gets insecure and doesn’t want to hangout, etc. but when we do hangout we usually end the night in multiple rounds of sex and talking. Havnt out a label on anything it’s not been but maybe a few weeks. She’s even mentioned I could sleep with someone else but make her my priority. She said she wouldn’t sleep with anyone else she just wanted to with me and I told her the same because I didn’t want to screw things up. I just hope this works out.

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ChipandPotato14 t1_iujw3ch wrote

Either she A) Wants to be friends with benefits. B) Is testing you to see what your reaction will be.

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BroadMindedGuy t1_iujvdcd wrote

So what does your question relate to? You’ve just explained you’ve met someone and you are dating, but don’t want to put a label on it. Soooo what advice are you seeking?

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Interesting-Ad2798 OP t1_iujvqxi wrote

Guess just try to see if I’m not getting played like I haven’t before lol

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DplusLplusKplusM t1_iujxd5e wrote

It's not a pathology to need time alone. It's the people who can never be alone who have emotional problems. What this means is probably that she wants something casual that's nonbonding and not necessarily monogamous. If you need a solid commitment you're unlikely to get it from her. Good luck.

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misterk2020 t1_iujxdno wrote

Hard to tell what’s going on with her. Maybe she’s introverted and needs some alone time every now and then. Or she’s been hurt in the past and taking it slow. Just roll with it, when she wants to define the relationship she’ll let you know.

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Xamrin1001 t1_iujv2dk wrote

This means she’s hoping you won’t sleep with anyone and hopefully make a move to label the situationship between you two.

She wants someone to support her despite her panic attacks and kinda like her for her hotness as well! And that someone she’s expecting is you :)

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