Tldr: Fake Number texted me saying that my M20 bf is cheating on me, and I suspect its my ex who texted me with the fake number.

Hello, this is my first post so it may be poorly written and I’m also venting within this post. I’m F18 and my bf is M20, we’ve only been dating for a couple months but it’s been great. Yesterday a fake number texted me saying that my bf is cheating on me, without any proof and I can’t reverse search the number because its a fake number. The person who texted me used an app called TextNow. One ex used to create multiple numbers in order to contact me, after I’ve blocked their numbers. And after a couple months of not talking to them, I unblocked them and asked them if they had contacted me. They had said no. But they are the only person I know that has created fake numbers, and on top of that I do not just give my number out. I also don’t normally text my boyfriend through my phone number, so if he was cheating I’m not sure how the other person would have gotten my number, there are only a few people that know I am dating someone and who also have my number. I can’t honestly say that this hasn’t placed doubt in my mind, there’s just a little bit of doubt in my mind due to my past experiences. It’s driving me crazy that I don’t know who sent that text. How do I move on from this?

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Princess__Nell t1_iuhlwou wrote on October 31, 2022 at 12:12 PM

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Your reasoning seems sound. If ex has engaged in this type of behavior in the past then he’s the likely culprit.

It’s probably worth talking to current boyfriend about situation for further clarity.

“I got this weird text saying you’re cheating on me?”

How does he respond?

mysticpolka t1_iuhm1q5 wrote on October 31, 2022 at 12:13 PM

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Just ignore it. It’s petty drama that doesn’t need to exist.

naviaas OP t1_iuhmcg0 wrote on October 31, 2022 at 12:16 PM

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Replying to Princess__Nell (#379,394)

Thank you and yes I’ve talked to my boyfriend and asked him if he knew the number, because I thought he was just playing a really fucked up joke on me but he said no and agreed it would be fucked up if he joked around like that. He also has been cheated on before, so i doubt he’d hurt someone the same way he was hurt. We both tried to call the number but I’m pretty sure the person who used it just disconnected the number? I’m not sure if that’s the right way of saying that.

senioroldguy t1_iuhmdon wrote on October 31, 2022 at 12:17 PM

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It's a fake text! What exactly are you moving on from? Both my wife and I get all types of spam using all types of hooks.

Fake text, fake story.

naviaas OP t1_iuhmht7 wrote on October 31, 2022 at 12:18 PM

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Replying to senioroldguy (#379,521)

It said my bfs name within the text so I thought it would be real, but i do agree i should ignore it. Thank you

naviaas OP t1_iuhml6t wrote on October 31, 2022 at 12:19 PM

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Replying to senioroldguy (#379,521)

It’s just driving me crazy not knowing who sent that and whether its real or not but I doubt that it is.

TnSugarCookies t1_iuhmv2j wrote on October 31, 2022 at 12:21 PM

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Someone is warning you. Maybe true. Only a couple months in. I’d check it out before you are a couple years in.

mysticpolka t1_iuhmvm4 wrote on October 31, 2022 at 12:22 PM

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Replying to naviaas (#379,577)

If it was real they wouldn’t be hiding and all sketchy about it. They’d just be like “hey this is so and so and you should know this happened”. Fake number with no context or anything though? Fuck that, it’s gotta be your ex trolling you because he’s miserable.

senioroldguy t1_iuhmyln wrote on October 31, 2022 at 12:22 PM

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Replying to naviaas (#379,577)

A friend who was really warning you wouldn't use a fake number.

naviaas OP t1_iuhn6sx wrote on October 31, 2022 at 12:25 PM

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Replying to mysticpolka (#379,663)

I thought it was sketchy too but I started overthinking the situation. I completely agree, if it was real I think they would’ve given more information and used anything else other than my number to contact me on, because there’s only a handful of people that have my number

Princess__Nell t1_iuho0km wrote on October 31, 2022 at 12:32 PM

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Replying to naviaas (#379,508)

Sounds good. The ex does come off as the most likely perpetrator here.

I’d keep my eyes open for suspicious behavior but try to let it go.

Liss78 t1_iuhwxn8 wrote on October 31, 2022 at 1:47 PM

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Just assume it's the ex and keep your eyes open to the potential cheating just in case it's not. You can't trust the info without knowing the source. Don't assume he's cheating without any proof, but don't ignore it. If you don't see anything suspicious of cheating, you know it's the ex or someone trying to mess up your relationship.