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So part of me wishes someone would have ever done this to me lol but no I would say that it would be uncomfortable about random people just coming up and saying this stuff.

You are overreacting. He came up, paid you a compliment, you thanked him, and he left.

Why are you uncomfortable receiving a compliment that receiving one makes you uncomfortable and you deem it creepy?

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. You don't think you are very beautiful but he did. And, he told you.

Men are beginning to not approach women at all because giving compliments or even saying hi is considered creepy.

Thanks for sharing. I considered this as well, but doubted myself, so I wanted to hear outside opinion too. Maybe you're right.

I mean, it seems that men are kind of in a no-win situation these days when it comes to cold approach. That was the only way to do it previous to online dating. You approach a woman who you believe is attractive and attempt to strike up a conversation.

But I will say, the level of attractiveness of the guy approaching does seem to play a significant part in whether or not the compliment is well received or not.

It's always better to have the truth.

>But I will say, the level of attractiveness of the guy approaching does seem to play a significant part in whether or not the compliment is well received or not.

I knew someone would say this, lol. He was attractive, but that's not really the issue, I think.

What do you mean?

If he hung around creeping on you I would say you weren't overreacting but all he did was pay you a compliment and move on, you have every right to feel how you want but I feel it's an overreaction for someone maybe just trying to brighten your day.

No, I think you're right. When I'm in public I don't want to be approached by men. Men are so gross. It's not even about the substance of what they're saying, if they're flirting with me it's gross.

You mean you weren't upset that he would lie to you?

Maybe this is just because I've never been approached in a kind way by an attractive man in public. Lol putting myself on blast here. But yeah if they're not hot its creepy.

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We honestly won't know. He might have been creepy or he might have innocently been trying to pay you a genuine compliment.

Personally, im on the same boat. Really not a fan of men just randomly coming up to me and telling me im pretty, hot, beautiful, etc. You don't know me like that.

Ultimately your response is whatever it is. All we can do is acknowledge that it happened and move on.

*eye roll*

Not everything is a creep move. Sometimes a compliment is just that.

Good.

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Lol I guess you don’t get compliments often…yes you’re overreacting.

Now for instance on the way to cross the street for my childrens parade this morning this man stopped said that, and Proceeded to wait at the light and ask me prying questions about my relationship status, my children (didn’t answer a question) and more.

If he woulda kept it at “you’re beautiful” I woulda felt like I am having a good hair day or good day lol but there’s a clear difference between creepiness and politeness. Have discernment

I think it’s okay for you to be bothered by it. I’m kind of in the same boat because I don’t like to be perceived at all when I’m out in public and sometimes you just want to go about your life and not have someone come up to you even to pay a compliment

You’re not over reacting, some guys do this to gauge your reaction so they can harass you later. I’ve had it happen, my friends have had it happen watch out for yourself

Thanks for sharing. I did have a sheltered background so I have to ask others to make sure I'm seeing things right sometimes

Who hurt you?

No problem and sorry if I came off rude reading back the First sentence didn’t need to be said

Please this is B.S. People are still dating all the time. Just because you feel bad you can't hoot at a woman who walks by you doesn't mean men can't approach women.

She is allowed to feel how she is in the situation that occurred. You might not like it that women are able to express their dislikes of these situation but you shouldn't try to control how they feel.

Who hurt you?

You sound like a catch /s

Emergency vehicles have a sign warning people not to follow too close. Maybe people should wear jackets saying, Do not approach.

Thats not a witty response anymore lol. In any case its really just not well received half the time so it's probably good that they stop approaching random women and making them uncomfortable.

Who hurt you?

He literally walked away after she said thank you.

I hate street harassment to my very core, but a simple compliment with no expectation of anything further is not harassment or flirting.

Probably a large volume of men consistently harassing her over the course of a lifetime since she was like 13, which is around the age most women report first getting catcalled.

If men want to point the finger at someone, blame creepy men who ruin it for everyone else, not women who are just trying to go about their day.

Who hurt YOU?

I literally just told you. Who hurt you that you're a broken record when women tell you exactly why they don't allow you to harass them with impunity?

Who hurt you? Come on, you can tell us.

Who hurt you at 13?

I literally told you. It's...like, RIGHT there in my comment.

Thanks for admitting you are taking the acts of a few boys when you were 13 and then painting all males with that same brush because you are immature and can't get over things.

Honey, please read my comment before getting offended. I explicitly said a lifetime of harassment BEGINNING at 13.

And this is a your problem not ops

I did read your post. You had something happen at 13 and now see it everywhere because you couldn't get over it.

I am kind of astounded that someone can be so stubborn and so wrong at the same time. It's okay that you didn't understand my comment but it's embarrassing to double down on it.

Oh, I understand it quite well. It is you who doesn't understand herself.

Thanks, Socrates. I'll be sure to embroider that on a pillow. It's your business if you want to continue blaming women for the fact that they want nothing to do with you.

You can go along with your life hating men. I don't actually care what you think because you have shown you are nothing but a sexist bigot.

I love men. I don't love creepy men like you, nor do most women. I defended the guy in the post in another comment. If women are creeped out by you every time you talk to them, that's a you thing.

Except you think all men who approach women are creepy. You hate men.

I defended the guy in the post, as I said. I know reading is hard.

You didn't defend the guy in the post.

You don't know me and call me creepy for defending the guy in the post and for defending my reply.

You are a sexist and hate men.

Yes I did. From my comment defending him from someone calling him gross:

> He literally walked away after she said thank you.

> I hate street harassment to my very core, but a simple compliment with no expectation of anything further is not harassment or flirting.

If women always think you're creepy, you're the common denominator.

Thank god, finally

Who hurt you?