Submitted by Interesting-Ad-5322 t3_yisjj7 in relationship_advice
Hey world. I honestly finally have the strength to write such message and seek advice from people with experience or anyone that could view my situation from another angle. I have been married to my wife for 6 years now. The start is the usual. All cute and cool no issues. Over the past 5 years I have started to emotionally grow apart from her. I don’t underhand it but I started to feel she doesn’t complete me, different wave length and we are just on a different page. Please don’t get me wrong. She’s An amazing lady, perhaps even better person than me I just feel like she’s not for me. I want to get something out of the way too. I am a respectful, successful person and never disrespected her or cheated on her on anything like that. It’s hard to explain it. Even simple things like going out with my friends, she just can’t control her attitude nor adjust it to the audience / people around her. That’s one example. It’s a constant challenge and it’s driving me crazy. Sometimes I sit down and think what did I get my self into…. I saw a few issues before we got married but I was like who doesn’t change and we aren’t perfect and certainly neither am I. I just don’t feel it anymore. Emotionally , physically I am not attached to her anymore and the dilemma is I don’t know how to be fair to myself or to her. I tried talking to her a couple of times regarding a few items, 1 minute into the conversation and she starts crying and I haven’t even got into the actual convo yet. I just ask sometimes to please try to adjust and I approach it in most careful , respectful way ever. I wish sometimes that she’s similar to my best friend (female). She really gets me , understands me , same wavelength we laugh together etc….. but we aren’t married to each other.
I seriously feel like I’m stuck with a roommate rather than a wife and it kills me. I want to be fair to everyone and especially to her.
What would you guys do in my case ? If you suggest to stay , how can I re love someone that I don’t anymore. ( I don’t hate her at all) just don’t love her like that.
I apologize about the long post I just want life to work out. I am absolutely open for any comments and suggestions from you guys. Thank you.
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