I(26M) planning to get married but don't want to anymore

Submitted by throwAway7h2g t3_yis4qa in relationship_advice

my fiance(26F) and I have been together for 8 years. I've recently been thinking about the big picture of things. I pretty much proposed to her because she had pressured me into it, now that I have sat down and really thought about it, I don't think I want to go through with it anymore. She is a really genuine and good person, but I don't think she would make a good wife for me because of the following reasons :

  • she is extremely lazy, doesn't do anything ( work, study) she is financially completely reliant on me.
  • I don't feel very sexually attracted to her anymore
  • we do not share any single passion, interests etc ..

I frankly don't know how we stayed together this long all things considered. My marriage is planned in 11 months, I dont want to get married but at the same time I feel guilty because all this time we spent together ( in almost every fight she tells me that she lost her "prime" years with me) I wanted to break up a lot of times but I couldn't because I feel sorry for her, I really don't know what to do

Tldr; marriage is planned in 11 months, don't want to get through with it and don't know what to do. Ps: sorry for the bad English, not a native speaker

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xvszero t1_iuk7tbq wrote

Definitely don't get married. You need to break up. You feel sorry for her? I feel sorry for her that you haven't broken up yet. It's going to hurt, sure, but the sooner the better.

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ChocolateChouxCream t1_iuk7um2 wrote

Break it off sooner rather than later. It will be better for both of you

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shrimpfajita t1_iukagjl wrote

8 years doesn’t need to turn into 15, 20+ You’re not even 30, prime has not passed for either of you. I also don’t know why you stuck around with someone you don’t even seem to like but don’t do that again.

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Lou_Dorsett t1_iukbisw wrote

Bruh,. Classic toxic. Run hard and fast. Don't go back under any circumstances.

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