[deleted] OP t1_iuhkbpl wrote on October 31, 2022 at 11:56 AM

Reply to comment by UsuallyWrite2 in Is it unhealthy for me (31f) not to want to get to know one of my bf's (38M) friends? by [deleted]

It's not just that. I don't want to go into detail, but there's a pattern of very attention seeing behaviour, which I have had previous bad experiences with in different ways.

See, the scenario you described is exactly what I want to avoid. I don't want to cause anyone to be excommunicated from a friend group, or disturb other people's friendships in any way.

UsuallyWrite2 t1_iuhkpf2 wrote on October 31, 2022 at 12:00 PM

I wasn’t the reason the guy got kicked out of the friend group. No one else in the group knew about my experience. I simply told my partner I didn’t want to be alone with the guy.

You do you, but you asked for opinions and in mine, I think you’re being kind of silly to not even meet the gal. If you meet her and she’s seriously not your cup of tea and you can’t possibly be in her presence, we’ll then fine. But to me it’s like when my partner’s kid says “I hate that, won’t eat it” when he hasn’t even taken a taste and assumes that something green is an onion vs a granny smith apple. Yeah, they look alike but they aren’t the same.

[deleted] OP t1_iuhl84r wrote on October 31, 2022 at 12:05 PM

I really do appreciate your input! I will have another think about this whole thing.