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whereisthetvchanger t1_iujpx3r wrote

I’m so confused why you wouldn’t post at all?? He wasn’t your boyfriend…so it’s not like you having a bf is bad???

I get not talking to her about how great things are for you, but your social media is yours. How you spend your time is not up to her. She can’t expect to see her feed empty of people having fun. You can also adjust privacy so she doesn’t see the post.

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Mushroom-frog12 OP t1_iujtht2 wrote

She and her bf were supposed to be joining us for Halloween prior to his death. It seemed wrong to be posting ourselves having “fun” (we were all grieving still so fun is a loose term) with our significant others when she just lost hers. We don’t need to remind her that the rest of us still have significant others. Obviously we’re not going to shield her from seeing couples ever again, but considering her bf wasn’t even buried yet, we didn’t want to post. We wanted be sensitive to her during this time.

We’ve adjusted our privacy on private stories and such so that she would not see, but public posts such as instagram, you can’t hide from specific people unless you block.

I know we can’t hide couples from her forever, but I know it must hurt her at the time to see happy couples. So I just wanted to see what people thought was an appropriate time to wait.

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whereisthetvchanger t1_iujwoty wrote

Yeah I say post lol. Maybe that makes me insensitive but I see no issue. It’s one thing to brag about being happy to her personally, but just seeing this on social media is totally cool in my book. If she doesn’t want to see anything like that, she needs to be off social media.

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