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hypr_activehyprdrive t1_iydyrta wrote
In all honesty just cut your losses and move on my guy. She will never stop talking to him and she wont stop sleeping with him. She'll probably keep seeing him and use it as a weapon whenever you fight, she'll go to him. She'll also compare you to him any chance she can. If she is talking about getting back together but wont cut this guy out she doesnt really want to get back together.
ReachTheSky t1_iydz1c4 wrote
You should handle this situation by completely removing yourself from her life and moving on. Honestly, that should have been your first move. I'm not sure why you decided to continue sleeping together.
Taking breaks and "playing it in the middle" hardly ever work. If there's one thing that should be simple about a relationship, it should be that status of it. You're either in it 100% or you're not in it at all. If you can't weather the smaller issues that come up in the dating phase, you pretty much have no chance at tackling on larger issues later on in life.
As for the other guy, don't try to compete with him. Competing against a third party for her affection is like screaming "I have no self respect" in her face.
uhnewbie0203 t1_iye3qty wrote
Do you think it’s even worth the “I’m done here, I deserve better than what you’re doing to me” talk? Or should I just disappear?
uhnewbie0203 t1_iye3rp9 wrote
Do you think it’s even worth the “I’m done here, I deserve better than what you’re doing to me” talk? Or should I just disappear?
ReachTheSky t1_iye4tny wrote
Statements like that will lead to an argument. If you have to say something, it should be about yourself and how you're feeling, not her or how she's treating you.
"Honestly, I just don't feel like we're a good fit anymore and don't want to continue pursuing anything. I wish you the best of luck." Then promptly block.
One-Championship-779 t1_iye5b66 wrote
Never give anyone you're not dating relationship time and energy. Trying to get with another man's fling is bad idea ethically and it could lead to violence.
uhnewbie0203 t1_iye5dob wrote
Thank you
hypr_activehyprdrive t1_iyerflb wrote
Tell them let them know what they are doing is wrong. Dont just ghost or ur seen as the bad guy
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