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Look, I have female friends that treat me this way, and my wife is super chill with it because my wife has guy friends like this and I’m super chill with that.

But.

If she’s not chill, it’s time to make hard choices.

Hard pass.

OP, please take this advice not as an attack. I am genuinely concerned and want to give my honest thoughts. Your bestfriend should know her limits. If your girlfriend told you her thoughts and opinions about this honestly, it’s likely because she feels iffy about it. It’s good that she even tags along when your BFF needs help. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with having a bestfriend, but there’s gotta be a limit to everything. Allowing her to do these things is like saying they are equal in your eyes. Forehead kissing, arm-resting, snuggling up.. those things may not be sex but they are intimate, even more intimate than sex if you ask me. If that’s the case, why even have a GF? Hope it works out for you.

You seem to be aware that there are things that should be reserved only for your partner. These however do include the kind of physical intimacy you practise with your "friend". Don't let her kiss you in any shape or form, don't let her sleep with her arms around you. Also what kind of excuse is "she did is jump into my arms so like obviously I didn’t want her to fall so I caught her" . You enable this behaviour, ok this happened once, that's fine, you should scold her and tell to not do this kind of things. In fact that goes for every behaviour that pushes the line.

You are very disrespectful towards your gilrfriend by not establishing boundaries with your friend and enforcing them.

It is your choice. Nobody can take it from you. Your girlfriend has very clearly stated that she isn’t comfortable with the state of affairs and that’s what you have to work with. It doesn’t matter if I don’t see a problem and the next commenter believes you have basically cheated. What is and is not appropriate in a relationship is purely down to the people involved - and in this case, the person involved aka your girlfriend has said, she isn’t fine with it. That means either drawing clear boundaries with your female best friend or making it clear to your gf that this is non-negotiable, which might well mean, she might leave. Drawing boundaries with your best friend will also effect that relationship, so again, this is your choice and nobody can make it for you. You need to figure out what you want.