Take a step back and look at this from a different perspective. What other changes have been happening that you haven't been paying attention to? This is not taking place in isolation. Her disregard for what you like and find attractive about her appearance didn't stop overnight. You need to look for patterns of both yours and her behavior changes, and pull on that thread. Regardless of the true reason, these are major red flags including the 10 year time frame. I'll not tell you what I think is going on, because your gut is screaming at you enough that you are posting here.

Shallow and stupid after 10 fucking years the woman can't get a haircut without killing your boner. Grow up fr.

And also, have you addressed what brought on this sudden change in style and appearance? This type of thing doesn't happen for no reason.

I’m not sure if the approach of focusing on making the other person happy is the right. What about self-esteem, confidence, being happy and secure with how you are? What about liking yourself? For me that always comes first. Taking care of yourself is important. So have you even talked to her why she made those changes? How it makes her feel? How she felt about her appearance before? To me clothing can be very empowering, the right kind gives me confidence and makes me feel badass. Also what’s so wrong with experimenting a bit with your style at some point in life. Most women I know get bored of their hairstyle every now and then and Thema change from long to short time and let it grow out after.

Maybe I’m wrong with that, but when you compare it to how you would feel about changing your style for her, I think it’s different because I’m general (again I could be wrong and over generalizing) the role of style, hair, clothes etc for women is just different. A lot of women I know including myself love getting ready and doing some self care. Like face masks, hair masks, styling hair, make up, choosing a perfect outfit etc. So I think for many women those things are a way of expressing themselves, having fun and feeling god about themselves. While a lot of men don’t really care that much about their outfit and put less time in their hairstyle and picking clothes as long as they look kept together. And if that’s the case for you too, then changing you hair cut for someone is not the same as when you hair and style is very important to you.

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If she has stopped considering what you want from a relationship then it's time to end it. I wouldn't end it over this being a single instance of her giving the cold shoulder, but if it is part of a larger trend of her ignoring your wants then it's time to leave. Cooperation is a choice on both ends, and if you two aren't giving what the other wants then it's just time to stop cooperating.

Hair style is a pretty superficial basis for love. What are you going to do when her skin gets wrinkled?

If her getting a haircut makes you unable to even have sex with her anymore I don't think u were every rlly attracted to her to begin with

Your post makes you sound superficial and selfish. You're asking why she won't look a certain way because it's what you like, what about what she likes or wants. Why can't you love her enough to accept her changes?

You say you would do it for her if she asked but has she asked? Or does she love you enough to accept any changes you make in your physical appearance without having a tantrum?

She made changes to her appearance and you are focused on you in this, ignoring that those changes could be the result of something deeper going on with her.