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Changing the locks on an apartment is illegal. She can't do that.

No but we got those door guards/latch that could keep it locked inside

But she can engage the safety bolt or the chain. She can prevent his entry.

Yeah, you’re right. Your name is legally on the lease, you have a legal right to your own residence.

Sorry you’re going through this, but start documenting everything.

If for any reason this turns ugly (police or court), you’ll be thankful you have documentation that’s against her and supports you.

Even things like receipts for hotel stays. She could be held accountable for those costs as she denied you entry to your own home.

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are you on the lease?

If she works, just get home before she does. Otherwise, you can use a crowbar to break in to a first floor window unless you have truly stellar window locks.

(When I was a kid, my uncle taught me how to B&E and how to hot wire a car. The window thing has been particularly useful through the years.)

Yes we both are

2nd floor with balcony unfortunately

Where's the lease? He should call his leasing office and see what the terms are on that if written

You live there and she can't prohibit you from entering your house. Apartment manager or the police will get you into your house. If she won't let you in call the police and they will explain the law to her.

Then she Can't kick You out

Okay so I just read the rest of your post. Sounds to me like she's got a damn chip on her shoulder. If you're both on the lease and you're the one paying all of the rent, which by the way hopefully you do it online or keep your money order receipts because you can prove that in court she has absolutely no right to fucking kick you out.

Before you leave for work get a copy of your lease I had a similar situation and almost went to jail because my ex told the police that I was stalking her and I didn't live there luckily my neighbors called the property manager and they straightened it out but I'll never forget that night

Why do I feel like you are leaving something out of your OP? What exactly did you say that lead her to threaten to lock you out? Also, you seem more concerned about the welfare of your expensive TV than your “fiancé.” You don’t mention at all where you’ve apologised profusely to your likely soon-to-be-ex for saying things that likely hurt her immensely.

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Well, first things first, stop trying to police what she eats. That’s only going to lead to more conflict. Figure out ways to be supportive instead of confrontational. Also, you’re adding to her stress and making it more likely that she compensates by eating what you consider junk.

You have a legal right to be there. Stand your ground.

Inform her if she locks you out you will pay for a hotel and deduct that amount from what you pay towards the rent. She will be expected to make up the difference. She is very welcome to go sleep at her parents or anywhere else she wishes but you will not be manipulated into some nonsense.

Send her a text message- as evidence- telling her you will not be going to stay elsewhere, that is your home, you are on the lease, and if she is uncomfortable with you there, she can go stay somewhere else. If you can, bring a friend home with you to make sure you have a witness, or at least have your phone recording when you get home.

You do not need to leave your home right away, and if she doesn't want to be around you, she can leave. You should also tell her if she doesn't want to live with you anymore, you both need to figure out how to break the lease and you will not be covering the full bills anymore. My guess is that threat alone will have her walking back her empty threats.

And if you get access to the home- the police can help you get that access since you are on the lease- then gather your most valuable items and keep them somewhere safe.

Record EVERYTHING once you are home, until she either leaves or you have a calm conversation.

Call the landlord and they will open it up

I have been married for 44 years. Only once did my husband say anything about my fluctuating weight and it hurt me beyond anything I thought could, which was probably the point. I had a great job, two kids under 10 and really low self esteem anyway. The pressure was immense, for both of us but he would agree I did most of the home and childcare chores. I cried and cried and when he came out of his probably alcohol induced moment of extreme bad judgement he apologized forever. But you can’t take that shit back, you have to make it up in another way. The comparison to OP story is that I knew I needed to lose weight and I knew I would. I gave him three choices, get your stuff together, we will sell the house and I’m sure you won’t want the kids, contest and it will take every last dime we have or the last one, seek therapy for your crappy ass temper and get your shit together. Show me written proof of these therapy sessions after the two weeks you stay somewhere else and figure out if you like being alone. He picked the last one, therapy was a freaking godsend for him, he worked out a lot of issues about his crappy upbringing and we have had a great marriage since. I say don’t do anything rash and try to talk her in to seeing someone. Otherwise good luck and remember, this too shall pass. If you are not meant to be together so be it.