Your entire post was about this coworker. What about your partner?

How do you feel about your partner? Do you love them? Are you happy? Do you have kids/pets? Do you argue a lot? How is your sex life? Do you have plans for marriage?

Thinking that you’re “worried you might cheat” is pathetic. Have some damn self control. If you want to be with the coworker, then break up with your partner. If you can’t have the self control to keep your junk in your pants before breaking up then you’re pathetic

Brutal honesty time - you have already cheated on your partner emotionally. I also reallllly dislike when people say they're "worried" they might cheat on their partner as though they have no control over the situation. I'm sure you've heard plenty of horror stories about dating a coworker, but consider if your coworker is only interesting to you because you're hitting a slump in a long relationship. If you don't want to be with your partner (which you clearly do not), just end the relationship. Would you rather lead someone on or live life as you want to live it? I know that living together complicates things; see if there's a couple friends who have a couch for you to crash on while you look for a new place and just break up with your partner.

Everything has been going well until you started developing feelings for someone else?

Call it like it is: you're emotionally cheating right now.

Do you want your reletionship to continue or not? Its really that simple of a question.

Yes? Then stop interacting with this dam person.

No? Then break up your partner.

This is incredibly selfish:

>The only reason I don’t want to break up with my partner is all the drama that would come with it. Hurting them, having to move out or have them move out.

I don't want to break up with my 8 year partner because it will complicate my life... well, you've already complicated it. Deal with it.

You share a home and a life with a partner of 8 years. Giving room for another person to get between you is cheating. You've given oxygen to these feelings. Every conversation, message sent, meme shared, and stolen moment with this person is a conscious decision to betray your partner. This isn't an innocent crush where you like a coworker's personality and the way that their booty fills out their jeans. You've made many many small choices to get closer to this other person.

You’ve been with your partner 8 years and you don’t care about them at all? Break up with them, you’ve already went way to far with the coworker and from what I’ve read you have no intentions of making it work with your partner so just break up and do what you want but don’t drag them on

What advice are you looking for exactly? You're already emotionally cheating on your partner and you know exactly what you should do.

I never understand why people cheat just breakup with your partner sounds like they wasted 8years with someone who is willingly to throw it away for lust feeling.

I would say if you can see yourself working things out with your current partner in the long run, talk to them. Tell them that you aren’t happy in your relationship and you have a coworker who has been making you feel these things. You would rather maintain and fix your current relationship than feed the coworker relationship. See what your partner says and go from there. If you can’t see yourself working things out with your current relationship, it might be kinder to end things with them and move on. Cheating can ruin someone and you’ve already gotten through the emotional side of it. Now you have to decide which person you want for your future and talk to that person and see if they want you as well knowing the full story. Good luck 💛

Uh yeah this sounds bad. If you care about the current relationship, get into counseling and therapy and TELL YOUR COWORKER THAT YOU ARE IN A RELATIONSHIP

or if you’re tired of your partner, set them free to find someone that will stay committed to them.

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you havent physically cheated in other words but you have emotionally cheated on this person. And like others mentioned youeve said your coworker more than your significant other...your partner is clearly secondary and not priority. has your partner expressed any concern towards this work relationship? if so, how did you respond? have you come to your partner about any of this yet? i am genuinely curious because i myself feel like the outsider looking in with my boyfriend and his coworker so i as well am looking for insight ,not to be a bitch. the drama...though...you are the consequences you create...you say your aware but why have you continued to cross boundaries and allow this to grow into something more..your pulling away from your partner..stop allowing yourself to stoop so low. Stop making excuses, stop pitying yourself, stop being selfish. you need to put your focus into your significant other.You need to change yourself if you want your relationship to work. if you havent caused trauma yet ..your about to go down shits creek and i could only imagine the hell you will create. ive been on all sides of this..you need to limit contact with your coworker.be honest with your partner, open up to them about this problem. it may hurt them but man honesty and truth that shit is powerful and she will thank you. and i only hope she will stand by you and you prove to her that you love her. look at it from the other persons perspective being on the outside of the relationship looking in at this relationship with your cw.be more concerned about the damage to your relationship w your so and not the feelings of your coworker , understand you are not an innocent party here. i mean no disrespect when i type any of this as well . better to acknowledge it now and take the appropriate measures to save your relationship and your partners sanity