Submitted by Sad_Stuff8265 t3_z92lph in relationship_advice
I(27F) am in a new relationship with an amazing(so far) guy(29M). Everything is pretty much great but there is one problem - he is not that experienced in bed. He told me that himself and...confirmed it. Everything is there, passion, attraction, everything, but it's just kind off too vanilla to put it nicely. I'm not having some unreasonable expectations, but when I say vanilla I mean only missionary(not even dirty talk, some spank here and there, nothing). I know this sounds bad and I feel awful. I was wondering if you have any tips on how do I introduce him gently to new things without pressuring him or making him feel uncomfortable(this is the last thing I want to do). I know he would be open to try new stuff but it looks like he's a bit scared. Any advice is appreciated! Thanks ♡
casualselfhatred t1_iyemw4q wrote
I would show him some of the milder stuff, think choking, etc. Try to lead by example with dirty talking. It's super awkward until you get the hang of it, but there's tons of porn online that he can use as an example (video and written). Communicate through anything you try, and try to guide him to do whatever you want him to do. Ask if he's comfortable. After sex, tell him how much you liked when he did ___. Best of luck!