Submitted by Randomaccount822 t3_z92xy4 in relationship_advice

Throwaway for anonymity. So I’ve currently been with my boyfriend for about 6 months (LDR). He is amazing, understanding, kind, sweet, everything.. he is the ideal partner. We get along well and we always voice chat and play games together or stream games for the other when he comes home from work and during weekends. However, sometimes he wants to play with his friends instead and sometimes he plays with them for quite awhile. I start getting really clingy and missing him like crazy, like I can’t stop thinking about anything else. I start thinking that I’m not as fun to be with anymore or he’s starting to love me less, even though he’s proven and assured me countless times that he loves me and I’m worth his time. Hell, he even spends most of his free time with me. It’s just the past week or two he’s been wanting to play with his friends more and I can’t help but miss him and wonder if he still loves me. I’m literally driving myself insane. I don’t wanna be this dependent or clingy in my relationship. I don’t wanna keep thinking he doesn’t love me or that he’s lost interest in me. I don’t know what causes these thoughts except anxiety, and I feel terrible about being sad since I normally get most of his attention anyways. I also come from a really difficult childhood and history of bad relationships. How do I stop being so dependent and obsessing over this?

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PermaThrowaway111 t1_iyeomzy wrote

You should seek therapy first to address all of your trauma's that are leading you to be this clingy and obsessive. You won't be able to stop this behavior unless you address the source of it.

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Tiny-Assumption8882 t1_iyeqmdc wrote

Maybe seek therapy but honestly it's a hard feeling to get over. Next time you feel it coming on repeat in your head he loves me he just wants to play with his friends he obviously can't always be talking to or always be around me. Take deep breaths when you do it. I promise this helps i had to do this as well and it did eventually work.

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Tiny-Assumption8882 t1_iyeqrmp wrote

But I'm not a therapist so what works for me may not work for you but it's worth a try and if you message me on here i can kinda talk you through it if you need more help :).

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