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If you part as friends there's always the chance to reconnect. But it takes a long time

That's what I figured. We still have lots of love and respect for each other and I still see a future with her. I am choosing not to reach out to her and wait and see if she wants to eventually reach out to me. I do not want to date anyone for a good few years since that is no longer my priority so I am okay with waiting. She is going into medical school so I think a breakup would be the only way we could ever be together again.

It's not unheard of. Keep the respect of boundaries but if you're really interested, work on yourself and check in with her once in awhile. I've reconnected with a couple of people who I dated when I was younger.

Do you have personal experience with this?

That's my plan was it a positive experience for you getting back with them?

I'm very good friends with them & have "hooked up" a few times. They both would like more of a committed relationship but I'm not in a position for a relationship right now. We still talk or text at least once a week.

That's cool how long did it take for you guys to be friends again. Do you think this is right for you?

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I have reconnected with exes as friends but I never got back into the relationship.

What's that because of you or them?

It’s not unrealistic for you to believe that if things workout just fine that you’ll find each other again. In the same way that people in relationships change and grow apart, sometimes those outside of relationships change and grow together again.

I reconnected with a high school sweetheart after like 10 years, we dated for like a year but then things still didn’t work out lol i think being able to love without possession is the best way to do it. Be happy if it does happen but don’t hold your breath on it.

That's the hardest for me. I really really believe we both still have hope but know it's not best for us. I am holding my breath but I need to let go. What happened why didn't it work?