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TattooPuddle t1_iydbpt0 wrote

I wouldn't consider it a red flag just yet. My partner's uncle is the same way and I don't think he's being malicious.

Maybe she thinks you're really poor?

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PoorCorrelation t1_iydbpgo wrote

Did you move to a new area recently? This is very culture-dependent.

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inmyfeelings2020 t1_iydc3fk wrote

Its hard to say. Does her partner act this way? Does she act this way around them? For all we know they could be swingers!

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[deleted] OP t1_iydipnl wrote

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inmyfeelings2020 t1_iydmuvy wrote

its giving me the people pleaser vibe. she's basically bombarding you with all of these nice positive things to try and entice you. kind of like love bombing. the fact that she does it away from her partner makes me think yes, she's putting the moves on you.

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Stunning-Profit8876 t1_iydcgyf wrote

I can't imagine she would invite you to turn up whenever you want if she had an affair in mind. She'd make sure it was only when her husband was out, surely?

That said, if you're uncomfortable with it you don't have to visit.

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Opposite_Ad_9825 t1_iydj054 wrote

So I forgot to mention it but she also said I can stay the night too…. she mentioned this a couple times towards the beginning when I met her.

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Logical-Wasabi7402 t1_iyddmde wrote

Up to the "buying me clothes" part it sounded just fine, but I admit that's a little too familiar for my liking.

Not quite red flag level, but it would make me uncomfortable.

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FSmertz t1_iydhzxd wrote

So, what clothes is she buying you?

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CaptainBaoBao t1_iydp8cf wrote

The question is... Would you enter in this game ?

And if you do when hubby is there, what happen ?

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[deleted] OP t1_iydr2jg wrote

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CaptainBaoBao t1_iye2hvy wrote

I had a friend who fucked the wife of all his neigboors. The guys who have fun at his bbq had no clue. But old friends like me and all the women present know it and keep it shut. What I mean here is that it is not a rare case.

But beyond your will on the path, are able to manage the risk or are ready to take the heat. Most people don't.

So what is the best attitude for you ?

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