ThommyChi OP t1_iydd6rn wrote on November 30, 2022 at 3:52 PM

Reply to comment by SleepFlower80 in Relationship standards. Is the Man supposed to “Provide”? This is 2022 by ThommyChi

I’m sorry. I feel like she is taking advantage of me to a degree and acts like a child when she avoids responsibility for her actions. Would you agree that we are supposed to work together on things? And every time we try to have a serious conversation it’s almost like there is no “us” it’s that she’s going to do what she wants to do regardless

SleepFlower80 t1_iyddj44 wrote on November 30, 2022 at 3:54 PM

I think you should end it. You appear to have made yourself perfectly clear multiple times and she gaslights you in to thinking it’s all your fault or you should be doing more. She’s manipulating you and taking you for a ride financially. She sounds exhausting and frustrating. You’re going to be better off (in terms of your finances and your mental health) being single.

ThommyChi OP t1_iye2xcy wrote on November 30, 2022 at 6:38 PM

Well yes and no.. I understand and know that none of it is my fault. I will admit that I get very angry when she starts the stonewalling or saying things like “it’s embarrassing bc you’re the man” etc.

My response to that was “Oh horse shit! It’s 2022 and you’re a grown ass woman and I’m not making shit this month. Grow up”

Like she gaslights me, but I’ve always seen right through it. I’ll just tell her to stop cause I’m getting sick of it. That she needs to take responsibility.

Like how she didn’t offer to help with gas yesterday but paid for lunch. The only reason I didn’t say anything about it yesterday was because I was so fucking tired of thinking about it and didn’t want to get into it after driving all day.

But I’m going to tell her “Alright so I spent $130 in gas, WE have $1000 in rent and x and x and x. How do you want to do it because I’ll be damned if I blow all I’ve saved on bills so you can spend how you please”