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whatsmypassword73 t1_iydu2x4 wrote

She doesn’t owe you a thing. You could have had a friend, why did you feel the need to make her feel like she owed you her body? Get yourself together and focus on you, be happy with yourself. She’s not your person, why waste time on someone that isn’t your person?

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PoorCorrelation t1_iydub65 wrote

I’m gonna be honest, if you’re not willing to handle someone not wanting a relationship with you in a mature way she made a fantastic decision. Furthermore, dating someone you’re not attracted to is never a regrettable choice. The alternative is to waste everyone’s time in a doomed relationship. Move on

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The_Cheese_Master t1_iydu4s4 wrote

Best advice: Move on. The most adult thing to do is accept the rejection and move on. Anything more than that is creepy and petty.

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Bel_Midara t1_iydumbw wrote

Don't think you can make her regret anything because she doesn't seem to be missing out on anything, your attitude seems awful. Forget about her and move on, stop "loosing" any more time on her

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JustAnotherMaineGirl t1_iydwex9 wrote

You want to make a friend regret not having the same feelings you do? She was just being honest. Why on earth would you want to make her feel bad about being honest with you.
Isn't that what good friends do for each other? If anything you should be grateful to her, since she let you know that it's time to stop mooning over her, and start looking elsewhere for a compatible romantic partner.

You invested way too much time in a FANTASY about how great it would be to go out with her, and now you are blaming her for bringing you back down to earth. It sounds to me like your feelings and your pride got hurt when she turned you down, so now you're looking for a way to retaliate and make her feel just as bad as you do. But if you truly cared for her, you wouldn't want to hurt her that way.

A better solution, at least for the short term, is to avoid talking and hanging out with her one-on-one with this girl until you regain your equilibrium. That's a bit harder when you are in the same friend group, but not impossible. In fact, if she tries to initiate a conversation, just tell her "Sorry, I'm not ready to be all buddy-buddy with you yet. Let's give it some time and space." She was honest with you, and you can be honest with her.

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