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Aitainthis1999 t1_iyeol53 wrote

Reply to comment by silkyleon in I used a service to find my boyfriend on Tinder and I found him. by [deleted]

That little voice in my head asks if I did the right thing by leaving, if cheaters can change, and I start to feel guilty for leaving him.

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interestingpitch33 t1_iyepys4 wrote

Cheaters rarely change. If they do, they don't deserve to have the loyal person they fucked up with back

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Aitainthis1999 t1_iyer3ga wrote

I know you are right it’s just so hard.

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interestingpitch33 t1_iyerkoo wrote

It is the first few weeks. I told my ex that I still loved her a week after she cheated on me because my brain just wasn't processing how she could have thrown away our 4 year relationship that easily. But after a few months, I'm glad she's out of my life and I am already such a better person. Give it time.

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K-braithwaite t1_iyf7sqf wrote

Cheaters need to want to change. And if he's lying to you, he doesn't want to change.

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Thick_History_3820 t1_iyevxer wrote

I think you should have closed the relationship out properly at least. Being abrupt usually hurts you in the long run. People develop all sorts of trust issues and ptsd so for your own sake maybe have a conversation but remember, nothing he did was a result of your shortcomings, it's always their own insecurities and mental health issues.

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