If a guy is only hanging out with you in…

Submitted by catsmeowbeesknees t3_z97krn in relationship_advice

So I went on a date with a guy a couple months ago. It was amazing. We talked for hours. But after the date he seemed to pull away some. He told me that he was sort of talking to someone else and that he was thrown off by us having a mutual friend. He said he still wanted to talk to me and get to know me but he would have to decide in what capacity and when we would see each other again. Fast forward a couple months and he was still talking to me and her but just sleeping with me. But he only ever comes over for sex and we never make plans it seems like. I’ll ask want to hang out this week and he’ll say I need some time to think about it or we’ll see. We haven’t been on a date since that first date. He says he cares about me. I’m not feeling that. He says he doesn’t want a serious relationship right now or to talk about serious things or emotions. So let’s be honest.. I’m just his booty call but he doesn’t want to come out and say it right? And saying not wanting a relationship “right now” while he also emotionally connects with another girl is me just being screwed over since I want more? I just want some reassurance and affirmation from him and I get none. It’s making me really insecure and that all I’m good for is sex to him.

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BathrobeDave t1_iyfe3z2 wrote

Sounds like he's answered your questions and what he wants isn't what you want.

You should act on the fact you don't just want to be a booty call/FWB

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Anubis_Prime79 t1_iyfdxum wrote

You are the side chick, while he figure thing out.

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MckittenMan t1_iyfdz2r wrote

You're being used for sure.

Stop being accessible to him.

Tell him that you expect an emotional connection to go along with the physical interaction.

If he cannot sort himself out and deliver on actual dating. You're not interested in being his disposable fk buddy. You have a higher standard for yourself.

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