Submitted by [deleted] t3_z8urbn in relationship_advice
I went on my partners email, seen old emails from dating sites, said he forgot to delete them, logged in and they’re his old photos and there’s no recent messages on any of them
He said they’re old ones he forgotten about, and deleted them straight away
I even asked one of the apps when he was last active and it was indeed before us
Shall I trust he just forgot about them as he didn’t use these ones often and move on?
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Yes.
What evidence do you have that he's not telling the truth?
I don’t have any evidence to say he’s not telling the truth
Then why don't you believe him
Been hurt before so I’m a bit scared
Has he given you any signs at all that he's untrustworthy
He’s told the odd lie to reduce confrontation as we did have a few arguments in the beginning but he ended up telling the truth once we spoke each time, now we’re open with each other and the relationship is healthier
Okay that's not him being untrustworthy that's him being conflict averse. He didn't lie for the sake of lying, he lied because he doesn't like conflict.
Sounds like you have no reason not to trust him.
That’s actually really helpful, I’ll keep this in mind. Thank you.
Should be upvoted more, great advice!
It's only been a few minutes lol.
A few minutes later and still not enough, should be 50-100 already lol
I havent used the apps in 1+ years and I still get emails and so does my partner.
I still have my accounts on dating apps tbh, i have not logged on them since i met my wife, accounts well i presume are still their, been about 10 years i think
How come you didn’t delete yours? My partner didn’t when he first got with me, he just deleted the actual apps, didn’t even think to delete the profiles as he said he just met me and was happy. I asked if he would delete the profiles and he did though
Just never thought about it at the time till now, no real point for me, just leave um. No reason for me to go on a dating site and go through the hassle to figure out login credentials to delete the account, then the wife might see i tried signing into such sites, no reason for me to delete web history neither.
Yeah when you put it like that I see your point
If he has no activity on the account, your in good hands
Yeah there was nothing, just old messages from before us
My advice too you is, dont doubt him, only if he gives you a reason too.
I hardly ever delete my emails, I have emails from years and years ago. Its not a big deal
TattooPuddle t1_iydcf0j wrote
Yeah, I'd just move on. I know I probably forgot to delete some apps after being with my partner.
Hell, even after deleting them, I still get spam emails from those sites. It's annoying as fuck.