No offense, but you really need to work on self-awareness. You have a boyfriend but are purposely allowing the advances of another man. Then, clearly try to use these advances to manipulate your boyfriend. Then come here and complain that your boyfriend didn't get jealous???

This is so messy it's sad. Your new friend is obviously ok with being the other guy or breaking up a couple. You are obviously ok with surrounding yourself with people like him. Your boyfriend is pretty apathetic towards you but from where I sit, this could be him being a jerk or could just be him protecting himself from your messy and immature nature. You are already borderline cheating.

Good luck though....