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stereonix t1_iy9s42h wrote

She's being unreasonable.

"[Gf], you know I love you a lot and I would do what I can to attend something that matters to you—trust me, there's nothing I'd rather do than spend time with you! But you know I'm busy revising for [x amount of time] and I have to prioritize this in the short term if I want to stay on track for [x career goal you have]. I need you to be understanding of that, but let's schedule something so we can still have quality time together. What sounds fun to you?"

If she continues pushing back, I would start to rethink whether you can manage an unreasonable girlfriend and your job at the same time.

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ghosttt-2022 t1_iy9sdnj wrote

Yeah we have a few things planned straight after my exams so we can go out and enjoy ourselves

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stereonix t1_iy9stpn wrote

Remind her of that and try your best to maintain a patient tone. I'm sure she's feeling a little lonely while you're busy with work, but don't let her steamroll you or make you feel guilty for doing your job. You both deserve happiness and I'm sorry your job is creating extra stress right now.

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