If you don't respect her to the point that you're calling her fat and lazy, then soon you'll not be respecting yourself either. It's time to go.

Dunno if this is a Murican thing, but just because someone doesn't feel like working 24/7 doesn't mean they are lazy. Work isn't and shouldn't be everything. Mental well being and feeling good with yourself matters more.

As for her falling out of shape, that will sometimes happen. If you conclude that you no longer find her attractive in any way better just leave now. There's no information as to how long you two have been together so it's not clear whether this is a long established relationship that should be fought for, or something that should be quickly cut off due to incompatibility.

Sounds like she might be struggling mentally with something.

No one goes from working full time and exercising 4 times a week to skipping work and staying at home because they're lazy.

Did something happen? Like something with a family member or coworker? Maybe you should talk with her about. But be gentle.

Telling her you think she's lazy isn't gonna make her want to open up.

Now I'll say what your words sound like to me - like you are looking at her as a provider and have no empathy for her. She's not a person in your eyes, but an object. Sometimes people need a break. She's feeling unwell, and instead of trying to support and understand her and look for solutions, you are worried how this might affect your life. God forbid you had to support her if HER saving ran out, bc she took 5 days leave. Unfortunately, I know people like you and you will not make a good partner for anyone. I hope she gets therapy and moves away from you.

Fake. 2 days ago you posted about how you were dating a guy 5 years younger than yourself and were unsure about whether you could settle down with him and whether he was mature enough for it.

You deleted it and all that’s left is a comment you made that is still visible on your profile, which I’m sure you will soon delete too. Or maybe this post. Idk, idc.

You don’t have a girlfriend, you don’t have a boyfriend, you have issues. I’d rather you get help for those.

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I think you need to do her a favour and take yourself out of the relationship. The way you speak about her is so rude and not the way a supportive partner should speak. She deserves better