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VariationX7 t1_iydq3o3 wrote

What were you doing those 8 years? 8 years isn't struggling get your act together, If my SO and I didn't have a kid and she was out of doing something for multiple years and it wasn't due to something like crippling depression then I would be fed up as well. You might have had money, but that's not the same as bringing anything in, if you had a job you could have saved that all up for a downpayment on a house etc. As for what to do, try to be the best partner you can not just because you're gonna lose him, but make it a permanent change

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angryliltoast t1_iye0gf3 wrote

Depression has been a very big struggle in our relationship. I did save a chunk of the money I got and that is what landed us the house we have now. He had bad credit and debt from credit cards he got in Highschool, so even our first apartment was under my name.

I’m still struggling with depression, but I have been making steps to change. I had been going to therapy for some time and I am trying to make those permanent changes to be better for myself and for him.

It has been a downward struggle for me for years. I have a lot of childhood trauma and anxieties I have been working through.

I should have put more of that into the original post but I also wanted to be a little brief and not give out my life’s story.

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