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You cannot stop him. You can voice your concern, but he is unlikely to change his behavior just because you are concerned.

Are you and he living together? Will it impact you if he loses heavily?

Gambling can be an addiction that ruins people. This person is probably not someone you want to have a committed relationship with.

The 4 horsemen of the relationship apocalypse: Abuse, Addiction, Abandonment and Adultery. Learn them live them, leave him.

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Yeah we just moved into an apartment in another city

I mean I have my own job so it wouldn’t financially affect me ,

Are you and he wealthy? The amounts he is betting are very substantial sums to most average people.

He has already lost at least $6700, and his winning wagers were $1500. It's not possible to know how he is doing since we don't know the odds on each wager. It doesn't look like he's doing that well.

But even if he has enough money to cover these bets, most people would rather save it or spend it on something else. It's upsetting you, and most people would feel the same way.

Well he’s wealthy , I’m not. I’m a school teacher. Some of the bets are pending . He said he Already saves and Invests and this money is for leisure.

Does he regularly gamble? And is this kind of gambling legal where you live?

There's not much you can do, unfortunately. If it impacts you, like he cannot pay his share of rent and other expenses, most people would advise you to leave him before he goes into debt and destroys his credit and puts your financial security at risk.

Yeah he gambles using an app , he pays our rent and everything. So like maybe I show him some videos on what gambling can do to people

That's a heck of a budget for leisure gambling. (My gambling is pretty much limited to a one-dollar lottery ticket once every couple of months.) It's difficult for me to comprehend.

Do you know his financial position well enough that you believe he can afford to lose sums like this?

I think you should be very cautious about this relationship. This seems like reckless risky behavior to me.

You could try that. It's pretty common for people engaging in risky behavior to brush away that kind of warning, though. They believe it won't happen to them because they are careful or sensible about their risky behavior.

You can't stop an addict from getting their fix. Only they can.

Well the start up that he started with his friends just recently started making money so this is very new. Before he would save and reinvest everything.

He recently started to do financially well so I’m not worried about him losing all his money but I am worried that he’s addicted to it and he will be losing a lot of money over the comjng years if he doesn’t stop.

Even though he may not go broke , you should still value Money