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Pricklypicklepump t1_iyczpci wrote

Yes, and I've had people bail on me this late too. As long as they let me know they won't make it, it's fine. We can rearrange. If it happens twice in a row I cut my losses and move on.

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nandolols OP t1_iyczsvs wrote

Just don’t wanna make people feel upset but honestly today mentally I feel really shitty. I’ve moved to a new city in the last 2 weeks and I’m struggling to stay happy a bit

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Pricklypicklepump t1_iyd13mk wrote

Don't worry about upsetting people. Your mental health is the priority and a happy you is more important than an upset randomer. Moving is hard, moving cities is harder and it's wise of you to postpone a date if you're not feeling ready for it.

Take whatever time you need to get your head right. Dating can wait and if this potential date is worth it, they'll wait too.

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nandolols OP t1_iyd1c8e wrote

Yeah. I’m having troubles with anxiety at the moment and maybe a bit of low mood. I could go, but I feel like I’d be forcing myself and I worry that’s maybe not fair on her?

I am also getting a bit worried about age though. I’m 26. Not getting any younger and I seem to have a way of talking myself out of liking someone

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Pricklypicklepump t1_iyd35e5 wrote

My SO suffers anxiety and depression, so I know what you're going through. If she was feeling like this, I'd want her to take whatever time she needs.

You're a young cub yet, loads of miles ahead of you. Focus on getting your headspace right and the dating will happen when you're ready for it.

Talking yourself out of liking someone sounds like an excellent problem to have. If I could do that, half the mistakes I made in my life might not have happened.

OP if you haven't been to see a doctor yet, I'd recommend it. Like I say, my SO suffers similarly to you and since she's had medication, her life is a whole lot easier.

Inbox me anytime you want to chat.

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