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little_owl211 t1_iyev4kc wrote

Reply to comment by Objective-Shoe-1437 in I find it hard to respect my significant others when they tell me stories about letting themselves be treated disrespectfully by [deleted]

I'm confused, you say you care about them, don't care about the thing that happened. But you are still judging them over that thing?

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Objective-Shoe-1437 t1_iyevpot wrote

I’m judging if they tell me how terrible it was and then later are bringing them up as jokes or things like going from “he used me and pretended he wanted something” to “he’s like a macys model, we fucked for 2 hours straight” to “yeah we talk in class all the time” or it goes from “he burned me so bad” to “I didn’t think it was necessary for me to tell him we’re dating if we’re still talking”. Or “he was cheating with me on his gf and when they broke up I kept fucking him”

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little_owl211 t1_iyewc48 wrote

If they joke about it it might be just them trying to get over it themselves. Like convincing themselves it was not that serious and that they are OK now.

And if them keeping in contact bothers you you should ask why they are keeping them in their lives.

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