Sex problem with wife

Submitted by My_Loud_Coworker t3_z977iq in relationship_advice

I(M34) was performing oral sex on my wife(F33), and I could tell that she was getting close to finishing. I also know that she is typically a one-and-done kind of person with regard to orgasms. I pulled away so that she could have a break, I could put on a condom, and then we could both finish together.

When I moved, she grabbed my head and shoved me back in. In the moment, I thought that this was super hot. She finishes, and we cuddle for a few minutes.

When I try to re-initiate so that I could finish also, she pushed me away. I asked if we could have sex so that I can finish too, and she rolled over to go to sleep without responding.

When I addressed it, she said that she "can't control if she's tired after having an orgasm."

I'm pissed. I feel like she used me to cum and then had no respect or consideration for my sexual satisfaction.

How can I effectively communicate to her that this is important to me? Her response is just so flippant. She hasn't apologized or indicated in any way that she is upset by what happened.

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UsuallyWrite2 t1_iyfbrss wrote

Wow, it’s almost like she’s most men. 🙄

She’s not required to have sex she doesn’t want to have. If it was a one off , move on. If this is a regular issue then time for a sit down.

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Flako2Smooth t1_iyfdmg8 wrote

This is my personal opinion. Sex is a two way street I finish you finish. Unless you talk before and one Is horny and the other isn't really but wants to satisfy you by making you cum then I think its okay for one to go to sleep right after. What I definitely see wrong was the way she talked to you and treated you right after you allowed her to finish.

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wigglebuttbiscuits t1_iyfea8f wrote

Has anything like this ever happened before?

Would you have been happy with finishing in a way that didn’t involve penetration, and did you communicate that to her?

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