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I don’t know that ALL guys do but it is a common thing that we want. That being said, I personally never expect it and am pleasantly surprised if my wife obliges me.

I don't and never have.

I've had some partners in the past who liked doing it and offered, and others who didn't.

It really comes down to the relationship and talking about what you each want/expect from the other. Casual or otherwise.

All guys are different and want and expect different things.

It's not a matter of what and who expects, but it's a matter of what you like or dislike doing.

There are such options.

1. There are guys who like blowjob, but in response they do not do cunnilingus, they do not do it at all.
2. There are guys who like blowjob, and in response they do cunnilingus, but without pleasure.
3. There are guys who love blowjob and are happy to do cunnilingus.

Then there are the same three categories, only those who do not like blowjob, and three more categories in which guys are genuinely indifferent to blowjob in general. And a bunch of subcategories. :)

I emphasize that what is important is what is normal or positive for you during your desire to please your partner, and it does not matter that someone expects something from you.

Some smart guys start strangling girls during sex, because they say they've seen enough porn and thought they'd like it. Girls, almost everyone with whom they do this turns out to be in shock. But it is not necessary to draw an analogy between lovers of asphyxia and lovers of oral caresses now.

Blowjob is great when the one who does it is happy, and the one to whom it is done is delighted. Only such a scheme is ideal :)

In my experience a lot of people see BJs (and oral sex in general) as foreplay. It's something that I know a lot of people did before they were comfortable with having sex in general.

If you don't love giving then it's not going to be good anyway

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Well first you shouldn't have to do something you don't like and as for the part where you say you don't know where's it's been....should also apply to the fact you're about to stick it somewhere else too. Listen if that's what's stopping you then use a flavored condom for head. And regular condom for penetration. Come on kids. But like I said you should have to give head if you don't like it. There's other kinds of foreplay which is very important in any type of sexual relationship, meaning casual or relationship.