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perfectlyplayable69 t1_iye9deh wrote

You feel guilty for a reason right?

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shroomcitie t1_iye9hd6 wrote

not necessarily guilty it’s more just a weird feeling

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Calasy t1_iyebwts wrote

Sexting someone else than your partner is cheating.

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greyno02 t1_iyecneq wrote

I think you just need to have a conversation with him. You say he flirts with guys etc so maybe find out if he's also sexting etc. Technically it's cheating but he might be ok with it if its only girls and he does it with guys.

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bigtittygothgf678 t1_iyea6di wrote

You’re cheating. If you were sexting with a guy, you’d consider it cheating right ?

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Current-Trifle5360 t1_iyea9n1 wrote

If you feel the need to hide a person and your activities from your partner... you've answered your own question. He may be bothered, or entirely not fazed at all. "Cheating" is subjective and there's no clear defining line.

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mrgees100peas t1_iyeaw4z wrote

What if it was a boy instead of a girl? There is such a thing as an emotional affair. Just look it up.

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AKS-04 t1_iyebfef wrote

When you feel something, generally it's your subconscious telling you your own perspective.

So it doesn't matter much, when you yourself feel that way.

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smoozagoozle t1_iyecc95 wrote

I had phone sex with another woman

Did I cheat on my boyfriend?

Lmao yeah you fucked up

I’m willing to bet you won’t tell him neither

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spiteful_rr_dm_TA t1_iyej9yo wrote

I'm willing to bet she doesn't even like him, just uses him for stability.

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justwannaknow27 t1_iyedtwl wrote

You’re sexually invested, its cheating babe. You say you dont care if he gets flustered or whatever but its not the same as you engaging in conversations like that with another person. Maybe you havent cheated but you’re on your way to that. I say either tell him or cut contact and block that person out of respect to your bf

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gordonf23 t1_iyebod0 wrote

Most people would consider sexting to be cheating. But not everyone does. Talk to your bf and find out what he thinks about this in general; it doesn’t mean you have to tell him the details of what you’ve been doing. But if he considers it cheating, you should probably stop doing it.

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deathtoallants t1_iyeewno wrote

Yeah, sounds like cheating. So what're you gonna do about it?

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shroomcitie t1_iyefcbm wrote

about to break it off with the girl, we’ve only been texting like this for a few hours anyways. probably won’t tell my boyfriend, and definitely won’t do this again

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[deleted] OP t1_iyeg0tb wrote

You should tell your boyfriend. It's worse it he somehow finds it on his own.

Also guilt won't go away until you come clean.

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shroomcitie t1_iyegd0p wrote

i don’t feel guilt about this because i was never emotionally invested in her for these few hours, just kind of bored and curious. if i start feeling guilty i’m gonna tell him, but other than that he has no way of finding out

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[deleted] OP t1_iyeh9uc wrote

You're absurd. You cheat and then hide it. Wow.

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shroomcitie t1_iyehltn wrote

hey i came on here asking if what i was doing was considered cheating not seeking moral compass advice

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[deleted] OP t1_iyeji3r wrote

this subreddit is literally called "relationship advice," I answered your question and called you out on how horrible you're acting towards your innocent boyfriend by concealing the truth.

Don't post on the internet if your feelings get hurt when called out on your bs.

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spiteful_rr_dm_TA t1_iyejj6a wrote

You have your answer. You cheated. You have advice, tell your bf before it destroys your relationship. If you want to be a coward then go ahead and cover up that you cheated. But you don't deserve him if you cheat on him so casually. He deserves better than you. He deserves someone loyal and honest, not cheating and lying.

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Beginning_Mix9393 t1_iyef9sd wrote

You feel weird=guilt. You guys need to have clearly defined rules about your relationship. How much are you each able to exlpore alone, what is good/bad together? What is too far for each of you? How close are your limits? Do you/should you compromise to close those distances if they are large gaps in what each of you considers too far?

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AzuSteve t1_iyeg4fl wrote

Obviously cheating.

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VariationX7 t1_iyegh6x wrote

Of course it is, would it be cheating if it was a guy? It doesn't matter what gender they are, you are sexting and having an emotional affair so yes you are cheating. It baffles me how people can be this clueless.

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shroomcitie t1_iyegp7b wrote

i’m not really emotionally invested i was just kind of bored and curious so it didn’t really feel like cheating to me. and i still don’t feel guilty

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VariationX7 t1_iyeh4ed wrote

Flirting and sexting is defo at least an emotional affair. Idk what to tell you, you clearly said you feel no remorse for being unfaithful, what are you gonna do the next time you feel curious and bored?

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smoozagoozle t1_iyetqo2 wrote

This comment makes me so happy I’m not in a relationship with someone like you

You guys are doomed to fail. I can only imagine what else you’re hiding or lying about because you don’t “think it’s that bad”

Mam, that is your toxic trait and if this relationship fails it will largely be because of you

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Lele_Freckled_Rabbit t1_iyeitel wrote

100% cheating if you feel you have to hide. Flirting isn’t cheating in general but this is being done behind bf’s back. Before this goes any further you need to come clean with bf

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aloveforkeeps21 t1_iyeb8av wrote

Sounds like to me you should suggest an open relationship. But yes it's cheating. Cheating does not have to be the physical act. Cheating always starts the way you are describing. Emotionally you have cheated. Just my opinion. Best wishes.

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Advanced-North-6860 t1_iyedfrh wrote

I mean it sounds like you are both towing the line with other people. He isn't acting in a monogamous way and neither are you. It sounds like you should think about what monogamy means to you both and draw boundaries according to that.

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midnightgoblin t1_iyeark4 wrote

If you both want to be flirting with other people, maybe you should discuss an open relationship, or at least discuss boundaries about flirting. You don't have to be monogamous. Edit: If you're hiding it from him, that's not ok. Communicate about your wants..

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