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You feel guilty for a reason right?

To me it sounds like cheating

not necessarily guilty it’s more just a weird feeling

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You’re cheating. If you were sexting with a guy, you’d consider it cheating right ?

If you feel the need to hide a person and your activities from your partner... you've answered your own question. He may be bothered, or entirely not fazed at all. "Cheating" is subjective and there's no clear defining line.

You really have to ask if sexting is cheating?

If you both want to be flirting with other people, maybe you should discuss an open relationship, or at least discuss boundaries about flirting. You don't have to be monogamous. Edit: If you're hiding it from him, that's not ok. Communicate about your wants..

that weird feeling is called guilt

What if it was a boy instead of a girl? There is such a thing as an emotional affair. Just look it up.

Sounds like to me you should suggest an open relationship. But yes it's cheating. Cheating does not have to be the physical act. Cheating always starts the way you are describing. Emotionally you have cheated. Just my opinion. Best wishes.

When you feel something, generally it's your subconscious telling you your own perspective.

So it doesn't matter much, when you yourself feel that way.

Most people would consider sexting to be cheating. But not everyone does. Talk to your bf and find out what he thinks about this in general; it doesn’t mean you have to tell him the details of what you’ve been doing. But if he considers it cheating, you should probably stop doing it.

Sexting someone else than your partner is cheating.

I had phone sex with another woman

Did I cheat on my boyfriend?

Lmao yeah you fucked up

I’m willing to bet you won’t tell him neither

I think you just need to have a conversation with him. You say he flirts with guys etc so maybe find out if he's also sexting etc. Technically it's cheating but he might be ok with it if its only girls and he does it with guys.

Yes you are

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I mean it sounds like you are both towing the line with other people. He isn't acting in a monogamous way and neither are you. It sounds like you should think about what monogamy means to you both and draw boundaries according to that.

You’re sexually invested, its cheating babe. You say you dont care if he gets flustered or whatever but its not the same as you engaging in conversations like that with another person. Maybe you havent cheated but you’re on your way to that. I say either tell him or cut contact and block that person out of respect to your bf

Maybe you need to tell bf

Yeah, sounds like cheating. So what're you gonna do about it?

You feel weird=guilt. You guys need to have clearly defined rules about your relationship. How much are you each able to exlpore alone, what is good/bad together? What is too far for each of you? How close are your limits? Do you/should you compromise to close those distances if they are large gaps in what each of you considers too far?

about to break it off with the girl, we’ve only been texting like this for a few hours anyways. probably won’t tell my boyfriend, and definitely won’t do this again

Yes your cheating…

You should tell your boyfriend. It's worse it he somehow finds it on his own.

Also guilt won't go away until you come clean.

Obviously cheating.

If you have to hide it then you know the answer…

i don’t feel guilt about this because i was never emotionally invested in her for these few hours, just kind of bored and curious. if i start feeling guilty i’m gonna tell him, but other than that he has no way of finding out

Of course it is, would it be cheating if it was a guy? It doesn't matter what gender they are, you are sexting and having an emotional affair so yes you are cheating. It baffles me how people can be this clueless.

i’m not really emotionally invested i was just kind of bored and curious so it didn’t really feel like cheating to me. and i still don’t feel guilty

Flirting and sexting is defo at least an emotional affair. Idk what to tell you, you clearly said you feel no remorse for being unfaithful, what are you gonna do the next time you feel curious and bored?

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You're absurd. You cheat and then hide it. Wow.

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hey i came on here asking if what i was doing was considered cheating not seeking moral compass advice

100% cheating if you feel you have to hide. Flirting isn’t cheating in general but this is being done behind bf’s back. Before this goes any further you need to come clean with bf

I'm willing to bet she doesn't even like him, just uses him for stability.

this subreddit is literally called "relationship advice," I answered your question and called you out on how horrible you're acting towards your innocent boyfriend by concealing the truth.

Don't post on the internet if your feelings get hurt when called out on your bs.

You have your answer. You cheated. You have advice, tell your bf before it destroys your relationship. If you want to be a coward then go ahead and cover up that you cheated. But you don't deserve him if you cheat on him so casually. He deserves better than you. He deserves someone loyal and honest, not cheating and lying.

i only “cheated” for like 2 hours total he’ll live

"I only fucked the prostitute for an hour, she'll live"

This comment makes me so happy I’m not in a relationship with someone like you

You guys are doomed to fail. I can only imagine what else you’re hiding or lying about because you don’t “think it’s that bad”

Mam, that is your toxic trait and if this relationship fails it will largely be because of you