Me (20M) and my boyfriend (21M)

Submitted by Dependent-Message-55 t3_z91r6g in relationship_advice

Me and my boyfriend is together now for about 5 months. And just recently i went out with my friends to drink at their home. I got home around 3am while i said to my boyfriend that i got home at 1am and ofcourse he got mad of what I did. I really really do love him and want us to be together till the end. I'm not asking for advice on how he can forgive me but how can i do better on myself. I want to go to him but he says i should just stay home.

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Lexotron t1_iyelkn9 wrote

Why did you feel the need to lie about when you got home?

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Dependent-Message-55 OP t1_iyents8 wrote

Whenever i get home from drinking i always pass out so i was worried i couldn't text and say i got home. Me and my brother is getting ready that time to go home but he fell asleep and I just let him rest.

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Lexotron t1_iyepp8f wrote

That's the accounting of what happened, but not why you felt the need to lie.

You could have just said "just getting ready to leave - be home soon". Then when your brother fell asleep you could have said "actually Dave fell asleep so I'm going to be home a bit later".

What feelings happened inside of you that caused you to lie?

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Dependent-Message-55 OP t1_iyern2t wrote

I don't want him to worry that if i did fall asleep he might think something happened to me. I know it sounds dumb and unreasonable but that what i was thinking truly

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Lexotron t1_iyes3eq wrote

You need to communicate better then. You could have just told him that. "Hey, still at the party. Might end up falling asleep so if I don't respond, don't worry"

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Dependent-Message-55 OP t1_iyetbga wrote

He told me when we where just a few months in the relationship that I can't communicate my feelings well I thought I worked on that but it seems to still be the problem. Thank youu for this, I want to go to his house but he says I should just stay home and think about what I've done. But I can't just stay still I really want to see him. Should i go or would that just be worse?

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