Shibui50 t1_iyf37a7 wrote
Somebody is going to be assigned as a care-giver if your father is demonstrated to be
incompetent regarding his Affairs of Daily Living (ADL-s). Your question is whether you
want to keep this in the family or not. Simple as that.
If you want to keep it in the family you need to identify a responsible person to do this.
If you Don't, or can't, keep it in the family, the authorities will identify someone if you
don't have anybody in mind. This is not rocket science and the authorities can be
a handful if you try to just squeak-by about this.
If your father is a Military Veteran you CAN work with the VA to address matters.
Of course, if he is going to be a dick and want to drink and smoke that is
something that will need to be addressed.
One other thing. Your father is 72? He's well into the age-range for dementia, given that
he both drinks and smokes. The fact that he fell and has no memory of it is Not a
good sign. If you are going to do something it needs to be sooner rather than later.
Firm-Host1799 t1_iyf7g1l wrote
Yes they have offered that in the home, it’s 1800 dollars extra a month which is included in the price of the facility, but that service still doesn’t offer help with med taking, I’m looking into memory care services and then they’ll help him. Sister is the only one “care-giver” just now realizing she isn’t doing it. We are working with the VA but it will take at least 3 months and they’re going to pay about half of the home care cost. He is going to doctors for all the visits he needs. she just misses his appts all the time because she won’t take him most of the time. I think I need to move back :(
Shibui50 t1_iyf83jr wrote
Trust me. I know how this song goes.
Been there. Done that. Have the t-shirt.
There IS one thing.
Years from now, when you look back and realize you were a stand-up guy and
did the right thing....even if its for someone who didn't want it
or couldn't appreciate it. You won't believe how much easier it is to live with
yourself than if you hadn't. Best of Luck.
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