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Lonely-Kunt OP t1_iyazq9o wrote

Reply to comment by PixieOnAcid in My (M32) friends (M29, F31, F29, F33) are ignoring me and it's breaking my heart. by Lonely-Kunt

This was something I wanted to touch on, but the post was getting pretty long.

Although I'm not diagnosed, I think I got a few issues going on.

I grew up in an abusive household, I've been dealing with depression since middle school. It comes and it goes.

I also need stuff pointed out to me, like I need incredibly specific instructions when folks ask me to do something. It doesn't matter what it is.

Years ago I was helping a friend of mine move houses, I asked them what to do with the boxes and they told me to "toss them off the porch", thats exactly what I did. Turns out the box had a ton of China in it and was broken. I wasn't trying to be malicious, I was doing what was asked of me.

When I get groceries for my Mother, even though I know she drinks both white and chocolate milk, if she just puts "Milk" on the list, I'll only get white. She has to put both white and chocolate milk on the list. I'm not trying to inconvenience her, it's like it just automatically happens.

I guess what I'm trying to say that although I feel like a normal functioning adult I often wonder if I may be on the spectrum or something.

I haven't gone to therapy and I cannot afford to do so.

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PixieOnAcid t1_iyb1ga1 wrote

It does sound to me like you might be on the spectrum or have some other mental health problem. I'm not a therapist so don't take my word for it. But consider that that might have some implication in why people stop talking to you, not to be harsh. Just the way that you talk about the mental breakdown you're having when people don't have time in their adult lives to reply to a text message sounds exhausting.

I think it would be really beneficial for you to try to get into some free/reduced cost therapy if you can find it. It might be useful for you to find coping mechanisms for times like this, but also to seek either a diagnosis or help with your anxiety.

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Lonely-Kunt OP t1_iyb2vl1 wrote

That's the problem, no one has responded to me in almost two months. I'll reach out to someone, won't hear anything and I'll wait a week until I try again.

If you cared about someone, why wouldn't you acknowledge them and respond if you already took the time to read the message?

It feels like to me you're justifying ignoring people. It's rude and inconsiderate. I don't feel I'm wrong for being upset.

I may not respond immediately to people when I get messages, but you'll always hear back from me the same day.

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