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Watch porn and see how it's done. It's an individual thing. You just have to find out what he likes. Practice makes perfect, I guess

That is not realistic.

There's tutorials for everything on YouTube and I'm willing to bet there's probably at least a few on blowjobs but don't worry if you're bad at it, speaking as a guy that nots even in the realm of deal breakers. Just be honest and tell him you don't have a lot of experience with that so he doesn't expect to have his mind blown. Most guys are just happy to receive oral even if it's not the best knob slob.

Just don't let yourself be pressured to do it if it's not something you're into.

Yea, I’d rather not admit that to a guy at my age lol. It’s incredibly embarrassing

Don't be embarrassed I'd actually see it as a good thing that the girl I'm dating hasn't sucked a lot of dicks.

Don't be worried that you'll suck - that's the whole point!

Every guy is going to like different things, so just try something and ask for feedback. And don't just say "is that good?" Because he'll say yes.

Ask him does he want it slower? Faster? Wetter? A tighter grip?

But honestly, as long as you're not scraping him with your teeth, It's going to feel good.

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I'd tell you to be honest. You may not like yourself so much for saying your truth, you may be embarrassed about it, but at the end of the day if you're willing to put your ego aside and learn then a guy is going to generally think better of you.

No one comes fully equipped with all the skills necessary to be a good partner. You have to grow and learn just like everyone else.

Honey, you do you and never, EVER let someone force you or guilt you into doing something you aren't ready for. The time will come where you will be comfortable enough with someone to experiment.

Set aside your embarrassment and be honest, I’d say. I doubt any guy would be uncomfortable for that fact alone. And if they do, well, bullet dodged! Like others have suggested, you can always look it up online, try your best, and have fun with it (which is the point anyway). Plus, after you get the first blowjob over with you won’t have the inexperienced label anymore. I actually looked it up briefly online myself, told my now long-term boyfriend I was incredibly inexperienced, and then when i actually did it I was told it was great lol. So you never know!

But if it’s not something you’re comfortable with, don’t force it of course.

Best of luck!

That’s the other thing I’m afraid of lol.

But, seriously at my age.. I should know what I’m doing and I don’t want him knowing that he’s one of the few especially since he’s very down for it

Yea, but I like this guy and he’s clearly interested in blowjobs since he all but flat out said the word lol. And I jokingly asked him if he wanted it and he said if he could he’d get on a plane and leave work

I have had terrible ones and I have had amazing ones and the few things I can tell you are:

1. Show enthusiasm and don't worry so much about your experience with it.
2. Communicate by not only using words but seeing how they react.
3. Don't be afraid to experiment and continue with steps 1 and 2.

Above all else enjoy yourself and don't put pressure on yourself to be a porn star.

Well, sounds like you want to. If you do, cool. But don't feel pressured. That's not cool. To be honest, you really can't mess this up. Some of the other advice here is good for learning. If you want any explanations on any of it, pm me and I will explain. 😂

Have a great time!

Be honest with him. It might even turn him on that his dick will be the first in your mouth.

I don't think a lot guys would have an issue would that and would be okay with you experimenting. Also there is plenty of vids out there I'm sure that explains it