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LastFewChapters t1_iyezusu wrote

It's creepy, boundary crossing and invasive.

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RelevantJackWhite t1_iyeydy8 wrote

Why only opposite-sex? Wouldn't you also be texting his mom, and your bf your dad?

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hisimpendingbaldness t1_iyeyygi wrote

Its a bit odd. When your married with kids it makes more sense.

For now just politely decline

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leftcoastlurker1 t1_iyf8uin wrote

Maybe suggest a group text instead for the occasional question or update

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goodbye-toilet-cat t1_iyeym8a wrote

Pass. I think it’s a little weird and wouldn’t do it beyond the usual planning group Christmas gifts or something, unless the in law and I actually do become friends and want to be friends. That’s my personal opinion.

I do know couples where the partner talks to the in laws independently though, and that seems to work for them.

If your bf wants to cultivate relationships across family lines, he can take the lead and start texting your parents and see how that goes.

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BlueBelle2019 t1_iyf05em wrote

That’s Weird. I text all the time with my MIL but we have a close and friendly relationship. It developed naturally

I’d just ignore his request unless he brings it up to you directly.

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peakpenguins t1_iyeylvh wrote

I also think that's a bit odd.

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hampili t1_iyezpqh wrote

It is indeed odd. Decline politely.

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biteme717 t1_iyf2qv7 wrote

Weird and kinda creepy and no way would I do that!

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Impossible-Cap-7150 t1_iyf4y1v wrote

I’ve been married almost 20 years and I can count the number of times I’ve called my FIL on one hand. And we don’t have a “ bad” relationship.

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Eh111986 t1_iyfdlf2 wrote

Weird…

Knowing in laws in person , by dinner or holidays not a daily text or calls!!

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bunnylover66 t1_iyfbant wrote

To me that sounds really weird. I'm not sure I'd be confortable with that. We have a family texting group, everyone communicates in that group. And we get together often for family meals and board games. To me best way to bond is by spending time together as a family

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