Submitted by perpetually_touring t3_z968cb in relationship_advice
TLDR: gf has a tinder friend, they used to go do group activities. She met with him for drinks alone at a bar. Is this being too sensitive ?
So my gf of 4 months has this friend, lets say Jyke. She used to go to hikes with him and a few other friends until now. Very occasionally, once every 2 week or something.
Recently, she mentioned that she is meeting up with him for a drink to catch up. Texts me that she is tired at 5:30, waiting for him to arrive. "Will leave soon, should be a short meet. Cause tired.". At 6:30 she says I should be out in a few minutes. And then she finally leaves at around 7:30 I reckon. She shared all these leaving estimates without me asking. But they seem to irk me, cause she didnt have to say she was leaving soon if she didnt intend to.
The next day his name comes up and I try to ask what he does etc, and apparently they have no other connection, apart from that they met on tinder when she was dating and it didnt work out romantically (she met me on hinge). She also adds a lot of "hahas" over the text. Maybe nervous cause of me asking, idk. Says he's like a lil brother (he's 23 yo).
I do have trust issues, cause I got cheated on in the past etc etc. The dude my ex (3 years ago) cheated on was also her "like a brother" (go figure). I am concerned by all of this, but havent let on to her how much. Mostly concerned about them meeting alone without other people present, and having met on tinder (but now friends). And somewhat about her saying "she's gonna leave soon", umprompted, and then staying at the bar with him for like 2.5 hours.
It's probably just me being anxious and possessive, and I'll talk to her about it. But looking for opinions as to how much of a right I have to be concerned about this. It is her life, she should be free to do whatever she likes. But this seems more of a date than just a meetup.
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