You seem to know the answer to the question you're asking. Why does he have tinder? you know why.

Those condoms aren't using themselves and you should get tested.

You need to bring it up and be "So, you still have tinder and have went through quite a few condoms.". Prepare to be gaslit and be very suspicious of any half assed answers.

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So if you guys don’t even use condoms why would there be NEW condoms in there since the last time? I think that is an answer in itself. I would face to face ask him about them, letting him know that you counted them the last time you were there because you suspected something was up.

i’m sorry you’re going through this, but i think your concerns are extremely valid and you have this hunch for a reason

The condoms are a very legit thing to ask about. Ask him about those and leave out the Tinder part.

Was there ever talk about exclusivity?

If yes, well then he cheated/is cheating

If no, this is more ambiguous

Either way, all evidence points that he's seeing other girls

Careful that he doesn't back it back to you. "Well, why are you on Tinder to even know," kinda deal. I'd definitely say your argument ties back to the condoms, and keep bringing it back to that point

you need to get tested and leave him.

Yup, you're valid here.

After you brought tinder to his attention, he should have had the awareness to delete it... but it was still there the next time around.

And the condom count was a genius move on your behalf.

There is enough evidence here that would indicate foul play.

I am sorry you have to go through this, but I agree with everyone else. You should be taking this seriously and end it.

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Be thankful he only wasted a year of your time, don't let him waste more. You got this! ✌️❤️

P.S this notion that people shouldn't look at their significant others phone is complete bs. If he tries gaslighting you ask to see his phone. If he makes an excuse or tries to make you seem toxic for asking just remember you're being gaslit.

Tinder aside, the condoms are a major indicator and really the only one you need

Why are you having unsafe sex with anyone? Especially someone you suspect of cheating. You are playing russian roulette!!!

UK the answer to ur own question that why does he have a tinder, just that u r denying to accept the face thet uk the answer already.

If I am supposed to talk about condoms, well uk the answer to this question too and now that u have found missing condoms and different boxes been added to the drawers, well then, there is no better way to say this but he is cheating on u for sure

Leave him and u'll be happy for sure

Although its very obvious that your being cheated on, a funny trend im seeing on Reddit is people saying "im the type to this or that" then doing said action as if them saying they normally dont excuses them. Either way, sorry for your discovery.

Red flag after red flag, the answer, you already know