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Ed2Cute t1_iycf3en wrote

Reply to comment by WalkingTombst0ne in I miss a man’s touch … by [deleted]

What OP doesn't say is as important as what they say. And they didn't say their partner seemed disgusted by them. OP said he gets annoyed by her trying to talk about it.

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WalkingTombst0ne t1_iycf7ch wrote

Maybe he doesn't want to hurt her feeling.

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Ed2Cute t1_iycgejv wrote

It's a possibility, but I think it's unlikely since he doesn't seem to be putting up a lot of effort to be considerate of her feelings. Imo, the behavior is more congruent with someone who's begun cheating and so expends their emotional efforts on that person.

If it were something particular that OP were doing, it's my reasoning she would mention that he chastised her about it or that she has some level of insecurity about it and, as such, might be worried it is the cause.

Though one factor she might be overlooking is age. Men and women experience opposite social effects when aging. Women become less desirable, in general, as they become less fertile and looks start to deteriorate. Men, however, become more desirable as they mature since they're seen as more wise and stable as a provider. And that could be a reason he cheats is because he found a younger woman. Happens very often.

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SleepyMomLyfe t1_iycnea0 wrote

Also, I’m a Hispanic women.. we don’t age the same as other women lol I get confused for a teen mom all the time.

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WalkingTombst0ne t1_iych661 wrote

I agree with the attraction, desirability, and stability part of how the sexes age differently. But, I just don't always jump to "they must be cheating" whenever there's a problem. I know this sub does. Every fucking person not getting along here is cheating according to this sub. But, this sub is dominated by young people without much experience so they go for the easy answer instead of thinking deeper since they haven't had a lot of relationship experience.

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Ed2Cute t1_iyche6s wrote

Yeah that's very true. I generally don't jump to cheating. I'll typically call out the OP for their fair share of the problem. But in this case, it seems like she's willing to put effort into the relationship and he's being very distant. I'm open to being wrong, but it's my interpretation of the situation.

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