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SleepyMomLyfe t1_iycmvio wrote

Reply to comment by Standard-Actuator-27 in I miss a man’s touch … by [deleted]

I’ve asked all of these questions before but he just gets annoyed and thinks I’m nagging

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Standard-Actuator-27 t1_iycw6st wrote

What are his answers?

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SleepyMomLyfe t1_iycx7ft wrote

He doesn’t think anything is wrong with us.. he truly doesn’t understand… but that’s cuz he gets all his needs met so he thinks everything is okay.. he’s not trying to see my pov.. it’s a one way marriage..

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Standard-Actuator-27 t1_iyd17gu wrote

I asked you very specific questions and you didn’t show me his response. For instance, why won’t you kiss me unprovoked.

Sure, your reply makes sense to my second set of questions. What are the answers to my first set. You need to ask him very specific questions targeting your needs and wants if they aren’t being met. Don’t ask him his feelings bc he doesn’t care for that conversation. Be logical and specific with him.

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SleepyMomLyfe t1_iyd1yzw wrote

I am very specific with him.. I’m a very good communicator.. but he just brushes my questions off or just says he’s tired or that he’s a grown man, he doesn’t feel the need to kiss anymore or hug me.. he says he’s changed, that he’s a grown ass man now and when we got married he was young

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Standard-Actuator-27 t1_iyd49z0 wrote

I’m a grown ass women that needs a grown man to hold me tight and kiss me. Are you the man that’s going to do it? I’m a grown women with grown woman needs. Be a grown man and honor your responsibilities to me. What are your needs and I’ll do likewise.

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clardimensionika t1_iyd3xe3 wrote

Sounds like he has some ideals that root in toxic masculinity and the belief that as a grown man he doesn't need physical comfort anymore. Might be that he's hurting or withholding as well but sadly that doesn't mean he will change his attitude or opinions. I'd recommend to think of yourself first and if you don't get what you need, don't bet that he will change, get out. You're still young and don't deserve to be this empty.

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