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HauntedMike t1_iyee439 wrote

Establish as soon as possible that you are no contact and if she cares about you at all she will respect that.

Never question your actions. Keep her out of your mind as much as you can.

Your new mantra in life is "I deserve better than what i've been given and i'm going to fight for it" Stick to it and believe in it as much as you can.

Work hard to better yourself to be better for yourself. Be completely content and happy being you. And when the person comes along that will actually cherish your feelings you'll be glad you found so much better.

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Mysterious-Cheek-362 OP t1_iyeockp wrote

Thank you. Do you think there are some activities which help? I already go to the gym

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HauntedMike t1_iyeoxyw wrote

I go to he gym as well. My biggest thing was I just lost my sense of self in the relationship always being a unit and not a person. I lost my hobbies, friends, just throwing myself too deep into the relationship. Take a step back and try to find some great hobbies. Maybe stuff you used to do. Friends you used to see regularly.

I took up building models, Playing games I didn't used to play, I got with a friend to learn blackjack for fun. Sometimes its just the act of looking for more activities that can be helpful and fulfilling.

Depression also plays a big part in making us feel like what we do isn't enough when in other circumstances it can be.

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