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Gosc101 t1_iy878ke wrote

How did you find out about it? Also yes, if I calculate properly you are together since you were 13. Now on one hand it's hard to imagine such relationship lasting without one side getting interested in "exploration". However she didn't break up with you to explote neither did she tell you afterwards. Therefore yes if she lied and hid this there is probably more dead bodies in the closet. This is also why how much time has passed doesn't change anything, cause you can't really trust her now, can you?

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myWholeWifeIsaLie OP t1_iy88hu0 wrote

I've always had suspicions about later incidents. But this one was before what I thought. And in bootcamp. It's like I was proven wrong by the Marine Corps. Because they literally warned all of us about this shit lmao. I feel like an idiot for being so wrong on that.

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Gosc101 t1_iy89bcj wrote

At least you don't have children, this would be nightmare. Have you thought what are you going to do?

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myWholeWifeIsaLie OP t1_iy8asyb wrote

I know oh my god. Well I'm in a masters program so I'm doing well with that. And a friend who can help me out if I decide to move out.

I'm just processing because it's a big deal. And I don't want to make rash decisions

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Gosc101 t1_iy8bdjh wrote

You are right to want to proceed slowly. Should you plan divorce you should contact lawyer asap. Another thing is I imagine your wife will make attempts to sweet talk you back. Btw was it her that you finally got this information from? I ask not just to pry, but because I want to know if it's a confirmed thing.

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myWholeWifeIsaLie OP t1_iy8c3ze wrote

yea

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breath-2 t1_iy8pbr6 wrote

Sry to wat happened to u and cheating is cheating I would separate from my gf if I was u but am not and u can make ur choice but do remember u r young u can still find love and loyalty. Hope things go well for u.

Ps,,,,just my curiosity is ur name a current one if so good one

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EjjabaMarie t1_iya67d3 wrote

Maybe take your friend up on the offer to get some space to decompress and think. It must be hard being in the same house with her even if you are sleeping in the couch.

Also, if you decide to stay in your home, she should take the couch and you get the bed. It’s her fuck up after all.

Sorry you’re dealing with this.

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No-Net8938 t1_iybe57k wrote

INFORMATION PLEASE:

OP, you say your wife admitted she lied about having a relationship Prior to you, because she never actually had a relationship before you. When did she have an affair? Did some of your post get deleted?

WHERE does it say she cheated? You only say you believe there is more she is not telling you.

You keep being asked this, but you refuse to answer. I am not trying to be rude.

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sydmistercheer t1_iyblfs8 wrote

That’s crazy you’re getting annoyed that he’s “refusing to answer”!! He said she cheated and is asking for advice on how to proceed, he doesn’t owe anyone all the juicy details. Why do you wanna know so badly?

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No-Net8938 t1_iybnbj9 wrote

Where in his post does he say that she cheats? I am not the only one asking about this. I do not want the juicy or stale details, but I am Not seeing in the post anywhere that the wife admits to cheating, an incident of cheating, or him saying anything except, I know there is more she is not telling.

I was not trying to be rude. I even asked if some of the post got deleted. Unlike some I do not offer advice until the facts are in the post or comments. The fact the OP refuses to address any questions regarding the lack of information in the post is beginning to feel like looking under a bridge.

I am sorry if I have missed something, but I checked his comments and read his post multiple times. It is disjointed and sorely lacking. If his entire supposition is she cheated because she admitted to being a virgin and he was her first and only boyfriend then it sounds like paranoia and he needs some professional help not Reddit.

Best wishes for your evolution and edification.

Agape 💕

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MAFFACisTrue t1_iychuxd wrote

Agreed. I commented about this same thing 6 hours before you did.

It's bizarre actually! I thought I was going nuts reading OP's post several times and not seeing that she cheated.

Guess people just read the "title" and automatically assumed she did. Lol

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Extreme-Performer-30 t1_iy93jo4 wrote

God dammit man. Look, I know you can “fall in love” and shit like that... but please know that we aren’t as special as we think we are in regards to general warnings like this... ofc people fuck and cheat in barracks. Why would you even bother????? Don’t answer that

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