Submitted by No-Advisor6075 t3_z8u3gd in relationship_advice
This is my first reddit post ever, so if something is not allowed please delete it. I need advice on a man. I (23 F) have been talking to this guy (26 M) for a few months now. We met in a public setting where we only had one 10 minute conversation but I couldn't get him out of my head. Come to find the next time I see him he felt the same way. We both ended up leaving the relationships we were in because of the connection we felt. Whether something was going to come of it or not we felt guilty staying in these relationships feeling this way. Fast forward to a few weeks of dates/hang outs later. He's staying over 3-5 nights a week and things are going great. We have started hooking up at this point. Emotional connection is great. Sex is great etc. I will be leaving after I graduate college (3 semesters left) to join the peace corps. This is a minimum 2 year deployment where I could potentially have very minimal/no access to internet. Due to this both this guy and me have an understood agreement that there will be an eventual end to anything we start. That being said, I have never felt this way about someone before and im almost 100% certain the feeling is mutual. Like this kinda stuff only happens in the movies type of feeling. We have just been holding onto our thoughts in order to not ruin the "ignorance is bliss" situation we are currently in. We are both partially emotionally unavailable because of just leaving past relationships. To me it's healthier to cut it off now. To avoid the pain it will cause when I leave in 2 years, considering how strongly I already feel. I know my heart will be absolutely broken. I've spoken with him about this and he listens, and respects it, but I can tell it's not the route he wants to take. I honestly don't know 100% what im asking. Just advice or input I guess. I'm at a huge crossroads.
Eehyo013 t1_iydegd3 wrote
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