Submitted by [deleted] t3_z8wkw0 in relationship_advice
planetsheenis t1_iydp1t1 wrote
Reply to comment by Dangerous_Papaya_578 in how to ask if girl I'm seeing is sleeping with other people by [deleted]
Yeah I plan to. Would being upset be unfair? I definitely feel like I'm just being paranoid as she's implied she's pretty monogamous. But to be paranoid, I've implied harder... Lol
Dangerous_Papaya_578 t1_iye4yt0 wrote
The trick isn’t to frame it as an accusation or in a way that would put her on the defensive.
Just say something like “Hey, I really like you and what we have going on, you’re the only person I’m with. Am I the only one you’re with? I’d really like to make this official/exclusive if we’re on the same page.”
It would be wrong for you to be upset if you haven’t had the exclusive talk, though I can’t say I wouldn’t be upset either.
planetsheenis t1_iyegakg wrote
Yeah I phrased it as casual. It's not so much about exclusivity, though for me I don't like pursuing multiple people past let's say date 2. OTOH I'm totally cool with safe casual stuff, but intentions weren't set.
Idk if it's contradictory to say if she wanted something casual I wouldnt be as bothered but otherwise I'd see it as a massive red flag considering the context of our dating. At the very least I learned the importance of discussing intent, never took this sub's word for it.
Thanks for the advice, I think I needed moral support more than anything
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