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Dangerous_Papaya_578 t1_iye4yt0 wrote

Reply to comment by planetsheenis in how to ask if girl I'm seeing is sleeping with other people by [deleted]

The trick isn’t to frame it as an accusation or in a way that would put her on the defensive.

Just say something like “Hey, I really like you and what we have going on, you’re the only person I’m with. Am I the only one you’re with? I’d really like to make this official/exclusive if we’re on the same page.”

It would be wrong for you to be upset if you haven’t had the exclusive talk, though I can’t say I wouldn’t be upset either.

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planetsheenis t1_iyegakg wrote

Yeah I phrased it as casual. It's not so much about exclusivity, though for me I don't like pursuing multiple people past let's say date 2. OTOH I'm totally cool with safe casual stuff, but intentions weren't set.

Idk if it's contradictory to say if she wanted something casual I wouldnt be as bothered but otherwise I'd see it as a massive red flag considering the context of our dating. At the very least I learned the importance of discussing intent, never took this sub's word for it.

Thanks for the advice, I think I needed moral support more than anything

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