Yeah I phrased it as casual. It's not so much about exclusivity, though for me I don't like pursuing multiple people past let's say date 2. OTOH I'm totally cool with safe casual stuff, but intentions weren't set.

Idk if it's contradictory to say if she wanted something casual I wouldnt be as bothered but otherwise I'd see it as a massive red flag considering the context of our dating. At the very least I learned the importance of discussing intent, never took this sub's word for it.

Thanks for the advice, I think I needed moral support more than anything